Departing of a loved one:
Crystal healing ritual
This is a
ritual that you can hold after a loved one has passed away. Obviously, you may
need to make adjustments, the manner of their death, and so forth, but you can
use this ritual as a general template. You can also turn this into a group
candle (pink to represent your love )
Incense of your choice
A stone to represent your relative
A stone to
represent yourself 4 matching crystals*
tray, plate or dish
the salt, incense, candle and water to represent the four elements (or in any
other manner you traditionally use). Place one of your four matching crystals
Light the incense and the candle.
stones representing you and your relative in the dish in the centre of the work
Take a moment to meditate quietly, and focus
on the two stones in the centre. One is you, and one is your relative, you can
add additional stones for other relatives if you wish. They should be side by
side, touching each other, as you and your relative touched each other in life.
stones in your hands, and hold them tightly. As you do so, remember the
positive and happy memories of your time with your relative.
stones over the salt, and say: <Relative's name>, with the energies of
Earth, I am with you in spirit. Your memory will always remain with me.
stones over the incense, and say: <Relative's name>, with the energies of
Air, I am with you in spirit. Your memory will always remain with me.
stones over the candle, and say: <Relative's name>, with the energies of
Fire, I am with you in spirit. Your memory will always remain with me. Pass the
stones over the water, and say: <Relative's name>, with the energies of
Water, I am with you in spirit. Your memory will always remain with me.
Place the two stones back in the dish in the
centre of your work area. Take each of the four matching crystals/gemstones and
add them to the dish as well. As you do so, tell your relative how much you
will miss them, and how thankful you are that you were allowed to be part of
their life. If you have family members such as children involved, ask each of
them to place one of the matching stones in the dish, and tell the relative one
thing that they will miss about him. *.
important part is to select four that are the same. Use quartz, turquoise or
amethyst, which are all-purpose healing crystals, or sugilite, which is
associated with crossing over at the time of death. If you have things to say -
why you could not be there, why certain decisions where made, make sure you
tell them why you made that decision, so that they understands how difficult it
was to do so. This is a good time to verbalize how you feel. Close your eyes,
and reflect once more on how different your life was because of your relative.
If you need to cry, scream or yell, now is a good time to do it. Don't hold
back. Finally, take the dish with all the stones in it, and pass it to everyone
involved in the ritual. Allow each person to hold it for a moment, to feel the
energy of you and your pet together in the stones. Conclude the ritual in
whatever your tradition requires.
Once you have done
so, place the dish with the stones in a place or type of place (river, woods
etc) which was a favourite of your relative's. Leave the dish there for several
days. Whenever you walk by it, say hello to your relative, and let them know
that they are remembered. After time has passed, put the stones in a safe place
somewhere, perhaps in a drawstring pouch, or in a special box, so that whenever
you begin thinking of your relative you can see the stones again, and remember
them. You may even choose to make one of the stones into a necklace, or pass
them along to family members for their own comfort.
Choose four participants or place these items
in there directions. One carries a rock, representing the earth, and stands to
the North. One carries a feather, representing Air, and stands to the East.
Another stands to the South, carrying a candle or some incense to represent
Fire. A fourth can hold a cup of Water to the West -- if you're fortunate
enough to hold your ritual near an ocean or river, use that to represent Water.
On your altar, in the centre of the circle,
place a picture or some other memento of the person you are saying goodbye to.
Form a circle, and call upon the elements. Invite the powers of the four
directions to come watch over you.
the centre and say: Take me now, take me now for to face the Summerlands*. By
the earth and wind and the fire and rain I'm on my way, remember me.
the North and say: Take me now back to the earth from which we spring and then
return. I shall cross over, now it is my turn. I am not afraid Remember me.
Repeat this verse, turning to each of the four directions. Substitute the
different elements where appropriate.
touch each family member with your athame as you say the following: Blood of my
blood Bone of my bone Flesh of my flesh Keep my soul alive I will live on
Within your hearts I am not afraid Remember me If you have ashes for the
deceased, you may wish to scatter them at this time. Take a moment to reflect
on the good memories you have of your departed friend or family member.
*If your particular tradition believes we go
to some other place after death, feel free to substitute the appropriate place
name for "Summerlands." If you're not sure where we end up, you can
simply say "the other side."
This content has been written by Sacha Grigg (Silverdove). If you use it or reproduce it in any way, please give credit to the writer
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