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Departing of a loved one: Crystal healing ritual 


This is a ritual that you can hold after a loved one has passed away. Obviously, you may need to make adjustments, the manner of their death, and so forth, but you can use this ritual as a general template. You can also turn this into a group ritual.

You will need:


A pink candle (pink to represent your love )

Incense of your choice


A stone to represent your relative

A stone to represent yourself 4 matching crystals*

A small tray, plate or dish

Arrange the salt, incense, candle and water to represent the four elements (or in any other manner you traditionally use). Place one of your four matching crystals with each.


Light the incense and the candle.


Place the stones representing you and your relative in the dish in the centre of the work area.


Take a moment to meditate quietly, and focus on the two stones in the centre. One is you, and one is your relative, you can add additional stones for other relatives if you wish. They should be side by side, touching each other, as you and your relative touched each other in life.


Take both stones in your hands, and hold them tightly. As you do so, remember the positive and happy memories of your time with your relative.


Pass the stones over the salt, and say: , with the energies of Earth, I am with you in spirit. Your memory will always remain with me.


Pass the stones over the incense, and say: , with the energies of Air, I am with you in spirit. Your memory will always remain with me.


Pass the stones over the candle, and say: , with the energies of Fire, I am with you in spirit. Your memory will always remain with me. Pass the stones over the water, and say: , with the energies of Water, I am with you in spirit. Your memory will always remain with me.


Place the two stones back in the dish in the centre of your work area. Take each of the four matching crystals/gemstones and add them to the dish as well. As you do so, tell your relative how much you will miss them, and how thankful you are that you were allowed to be part of their life. If you have family members such as children involved, ask each of them to place one of the matching stones in the dish, and tell the relative one thing that they will miss about him. *.


The important part is to select four that are the same. Use quartz, turquoise or amethyst, which are all-purpose healing crystals, or sugilite, which is associated with crossing over at the time of death. If you have things to say - why you could not be there, why certain decisions where made, make sure you tell them why you made that decision, so that they understands how difficult it was to do so. This is a good time to verbalize how you feel. Close your eyes, and reflect once more on how different your life was because of your relative. If you need to cry, scream or yell, now is a good time to do it. Don't hold back. Finally, take the dish with all the stones in it, and pass it to everyone involved in the ritual. Allow each person to hold it for a moment, to feel the energy of you and your pet together in the stones. Conclude the ritual in whatever your tradition requires.


Once you have done so, place the dish with the stones in a place or type of place (river, woods etc) which was a favourite of your relative's. Leave the dish there for several days. Whenever you walk by it, say hello to your relative, and let them know that they are remembered. After time has passed, put the stones in a safe place somewhere, perhaps in a drawstring pouch, or in a special box, so that whenever you begin thinking of your relative you can see the stones again, and remember them. You may even choose to make one of the stones into a necklace, or pass them along to family members for their own comfort.

 Alternative ritual:


Choose four participants or place these items in there directions. One carries a rock, representing the earth, and stands to the North. One carries a feather, representing Air, and stands to the East. Another stands to the South, carrying a candle or some incense to represent Fire. A fourth can hold a cup of Water to the West -- if you're fortunate enough to hold your ritual near an ocean or river, use that to represent Water.


On your altar, in the centre of the circle, place a picture or some other memento of the person you are saying goodbye to. Form a circle, and call upon the elements. Invite the powers of the four directions to come watch over you.


Stand in the centre and say: Take me now, take me now for to face the Summerlands*. By the earth and wind and the fire and rain I'm on my way, remember me.


Turn to the North and say: Take me now back to the earth from which we spring and then return. I shall cross over, now it is my turn. I am not afraid Remember me. Repeat this verse, turning to each of the four directions. Substitute the different elements where appropriate.


Finally, touch each family member with your athame as you say the following: Blood of my blood Bone of my bone Flesh of my flesh Keep my soul alive I will live on Within your hearts I am not afraid Remember me If you have ashes for the deceased, you may wish to scatter them at this time. Take a moment to reflect on the good memories you have of your departed friend or family member.


*If your particular tradition believes we go to some other place after death, feel free to substitute the appropriate place name for "Summerlands." If you're not sure where we end up, you can simply say "the other side."

This content has been written by Sacha Grigg (Silverdove). If you use it or reproduce it in any way, please give credit to the writer

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